Tuesday, February 27, 2018

The Non-Voting Majority

The outcome of the 2016 presidential election was essentially won by what is now known as "the silent majority." I remember such a feeling of sadness and mourning on November 9, 2016, when we awoke to the nightmare that Donald Trump had won an election that, by all logical conclusions, should have been won by Hillary Clinton. She was a better candidate in so many ways. Not perfect, but exceptionally better. Never has there been a more qualified candidate than Hillary Clinton; never before has their been such a disgusting candidate as Donald Trump. So, how did this tragedy happen? How did Trump win an election that was against him on every level?

That is the question so many Americans are still asking themselves. Whether there was any collusion or meddling in the campaign or in the election doesn't really matter. The gut-wrenching feelings I had on the drive to work the morning after Election Day were real, are real, and they continue to linger. The feelings I had were of disappointment in fellow Americans. The feelings I had were of great disgust that anyone could have supported his candidacy at all. I knew people were, but a majority? I realize Clinton won the popular vote, so in essence, I'm right that MOST people who voted did vote for her. The electoral college is outdated and not helpful in this situation. Still, how did THAT many people vote for this clueless buffoon? How did THAT many people fall for his empty promises that only had HIS best interest at heart? Most everyone I knew was voting for Clinton, with a few exceptions I still can't wrap my brain around. I remember driving to work trying to find a news station on the radio to hear more about what people were thinking, because that day seemed so gray and dreary, so cold and surreal that surely the rest of the country was in mourning, right? Much to my frustration, the one station that wasn't currently taking a commercial break must have been a conservative station where callers, mostly white males, were reporting overwhelming joy and relief at Trump's win. They were touting the satisfaction that they were finally "being heard," they finally "had a voice." That voice that was being heard, in my strong opinion, was one of supremacy, hatred, xenophobia, ignorance, misogyny, intolerance, and quite frankly, stupidity. This is not the America I have lived in all my life. This was not the nation I wanted my children to grow up in and feel love toward.

Trump's victory is America's downfall, and that has been attributed to what has become known as "the silent majority." Well, this just down-right pisses me off. I don't believe that majority of our country shares Trump's philosophy, if you can even call his ridiculous rhetoric a "philosophy." (After all, he rarely makes a cohesive point, rarely uses a vocabulary greater than that of preschoolers, and contradicts himself on a near-daily basis.) I believe the votes for Trump were cast because he was a new face in politics, because he wasn't Hillary Clinton, because they couldn't bring themselves to vote for a woman, because he spoke to these people at their level.

But, I don't believe a silent majority voted for Trump. Instead, I believe a nonvoting majority let our country down. So, I'd like to talk about this major problem in society today. People have put their lives on the line to earn us the right to vote. People have marched, protested, starved, been beaten so that we can have a say in our government. Yet, too many people don't even exercise this right. I've learned that people really do have great opinions, they do want to see change, they do have awesome ideas. The problem is lack of motivation to get involved, laziness when it comes to getting out to vote, failure to engage and educate themselves on the candidates and the issues. Specifically, Democrats just don't get involved.

Early voting has begun, and while the Democratic turn-out in our area is significantly increased - a statistic that I am giddy about, we still turn out only half the voters that the Republicans do. Where are the people? What is so hard about taking 10 minutes to run in to the local library to cast a ballot that will take like 30 seconds to complete? Are we really asking too much of people? Are 12 days to vote not enough opportunities? I realize that polls close by 7:00pm, but geez... 7:00pm!! (And open on weekends too!) I realize you have kids. Take them with you! I realize you gotta get home and get dinner on the table and the kids have soccer practice and need baths and have homework and don't feel well. Plan around it! I know it's raining. Take a freakin' umbrella; you won't melt. If I can do it, you can too!

The silent majority didn't elect Trump, the non-voting majority did. If you didn't vote, I blame you for our current state of affairs. I get being undecided. I don't get being apathetic. I know what I'm writing could be offensive to some. I apologize if you don't like what I'm saying. I hope it will motivate you to GO VOTE. But, it won't. You'll just sit back and let others take charge of your rights, change the America you know and love into something unrecognizable, and enrage you to want to vote in the next election - which you will avoid when it really comes down to it. You'll get too busy or too lazy or too uninformed.

Did you know that Republicans are banking on Dems to not show up? Did you know that Texas has its gubernatorial election on off years, when there is not a presidential race, BECAUSE they depend on a lower voter turnout? It's a smart move to keep Republicans in office. They know that Democrats won't bother to show up. This is a huge problem! I've come to see that motivating Democrats to go to the polls is like trying to cheer on an obese sloth with ADHD as he attempts the Boston marathon while walking backward in molasses. COME ON, Dems! We know you're out there! Stop thinking about it, and just go VOTE already! (And, don't vote in the Republican primary JUST to vote against an incumbent or unattractive candidate. Smart tactic, but it rarely pays off, and now you've identified yourself as a Republican.)

The non-voting majority is okay with the status quo. You think someone else will take care of the problems. You don't really face the problems, anyway... at least that's what you tell yourself. You're white, you're well-off with a car and a roof over your head and plenty of food on your table. Your kids go to a decent school, you know how to advocate for your kids, and have means to access whatever they need. You have access to healthcare, and you even go to the most expensive doctors in the area because you would settle for nothing less for your family (nor should you). You have no major student loan debt since your parents were able to pay your college tuition. You are heterosexual, able-bodied, cisgendered citizens who were born in this country. So, you feel that you don't really NEED to go vote. After all, it's such an inconvenience, just like volunteering to help campaign with your good friend who is running for office. (Not to mention, you are really sick and tired of my political posts and just can't wait for the damn election to be over already.)

I hope I'm wrong. I hope you'll get involved. I hope you'll realize that your vote is a chance to speak up and speak out - whether the vote directly helps you or not. Perhaps your vote will help elect officials who care about others, who listen to the people, who want equality and justice for everyone. Perhaps your vote will make our schools safer, make immigrants feel more welcome, help families stay together, allow women to make their own choices for their bodies, and ensure quality affordable healthcare for every man, woman, and child. Perhaps your vote will put people in office who want to help parents take care of their children, assist others with paying off student loan debt so money can more readily flow into the economy, or ensure protection and freedom for everyone no matter how they identify themselves. Your vote may speak for Mother Nature and conserving our environment. Perhaps you can be a voice for those who can't afford to get to the polls or are too intimidated to do so. Most importantly, your vote could be the one that determines whether or not respect and acceptance are restored in the moral fabric of this country I so desperately would like my children to see united once again.

I hope you'll explore your options. You google your recent medical symptoms, but not your local candidates. Change that. Call your local political party office and find out more; look up voter guides in your area. Look for road and yard signs when you're out and about, then go home and look them up! Find out who will be on the ballot, and even if someone is running unopposed, VOTE for them. Find out what propositions will be on the ballot and decide what you'll support or not. Make a plan to vote. Take a friend with you. Congratulate yourself on participating in democracy and not being part of the non-voting majority.  Let's make that majority disappear! You DO have a voice. A collective voice that, when utilized, speaks volumes and cannot and will not be silenced.



Sunday, February 25, 2018

And Another Year Makes TWO: Knox

My sweet Knox,
Your birthday has come and gone, and you are officially TWO. I keep looking at you since your birthday, thinking how are you two already? You are definitely a big boy with big thoughts, big actions, big feelings, and a big body! You are growing so fast -getting taller and becoming quite the long boy! In fact just yesterday, we had your well-check with Dr. B, and you are in the 80th percentile for height. This doesn't surprise me, as you've always measured longer than average even in utero. I want to tell you so many things about you at this age that will fast-pass into distant memory long before we want it to. I keep wanting to freeze time and capture each sweet smell, touch, giggle, word, look. . . but it will fade from memory if I don't capture it now, and that's the whole point of this post, as you know by now.

So what are you up to now? I could go on and on here, but not much has changed since the 23-Month Newsletter, so I'll just hit the highlights:

-You have quite the vocabulary. It's always the first place I start recently because your list of words just grows and grows, as it should, at this point. The most notable things you say include: "Boys! Boys! Stop!" you yell so loudly whenever you are annoyed by your big brothers. "No! Mine!" isn't far behind. As is, "I WANT THAT." But, you also say wonderful things like, "More milk, please, Mommy. Thank you." (Sounds more like, "Mo milt peez, Mommy. Tane too.")

-You just love to run and hop and - skip even. You still adore My Gym and all the places we go to get that energy out.

-You know all your colors! You can count 1-10. You catch on to song lyrics very well. In fact, my favorite is when you sing lullabies with me. Our favorites are "Hush Little Baby," "Lullaby," "Twinkle, Twinkle," and of course, "Yah Yah" ("I'm Still Standing").

-You go pee on the potty. Still no poop, and I'm still not ready to potty train yet, but you are definitely proud of yourself when you go potty - usually right before bath or when you wake up.

-We're still not hearing those /x/ and /k/ sounds. So, you are still "Knot" or "Knos," and milk is still "milt," and dog is still "dot."

-You space out from time to time. This has become my only big worry for you right now. We mentioned it to Dr. B at your well-check, and he was also concerned. You are not "reachable" during these 20-40 second lapses. You don't respond to your name or to a touch or to me tapping food on your lips with a fork. I'm worried you're having petit mal seizures. They seem harmless, but what mom would be okay with her baby having seizures - great or small. We are watching you closely, and trying to document when they happen and for how long, and even trying to catch them on video. We've been told you would probably outgrow them, but still. . . not sure what's going on with this.

-You are shy at first and then warm up. You love to burrow your head into my neck or curl around my leg in a new place. And if you ever feel upset, you will "bottom lip it" and pout.

STATS:
-Weight: 28 pounds, 7 ounces = 70th percentile
-Height: 35.5 inches = 80th percentile
-Head: 48.5 cm = 55th percentile
-Developmental level - around 2 years, 5 months
-Size 5 diapers, 6 overnight
-2T clothes, size 8 shoe

Now, let's get on to the really fun stuff: CELEBRATING YOU! After one final one-year-old sleep, we woke you as a two-year-old when Daddy, Banner, Quinn, and I quietly walked into your room lightly singing "Happy Birthday to You." You were all smiles as balloons filled your crib and you bonked them out to us. Then, it was time for kolaches and donuts Daddy had run out to get early, early in the morning! We sang again, and this time you got to blow out your candle - with a "ffff" blow. Then, we headed up to school to celebrate your birthday with your class. You got to decorate your cake, and Quinn got to come join your class - and he loved being a part of that, back in his first classroom surrounded by your friends and with his arm around you the whole time! After your nap, you had a special visit from BeeBee who brought you a gift and a dozen small bundt cakes to enjoy - and to sing "Happy Birthday" for the fourth time! :) Later in the evening, we had an impromptu meeting with friends at Chuck E. Cheese. Amanda and the boys and Aunt Mischelle and the kids joined us to play games and eat pizza with you. The following day was...

PARTY TIME! I knew your theme for your second birthday party months and months ago: fish. In fact, I really wanted to have it at the aquarium, but we had too many people on our guest list to make that work. You just have always loved anything with fish - fish sticks, Goldfish, your fish projector, pointing out fish on any little thing! Nearly every night, for several months of the last year, you liked for me to sing the "Feeesh" song: "Boop, boop, dittum, dattum, wattam,  choo!" (I love how much you love this song - a song that has been sung for generations over in our family.) It's one reason we got you a fish for Hanukkah, and we had to name him FEESH so you could say it! Luckily, a fish theme is one easy party to throw! We had Swedish Fish, Goldfish, S'mores Goldfish, and blue jello "water" alongside a cheese goldfish surrounded by yummy grapes. The party favors were also easy: Bubbles, Goldfish snacks, more Swedish Fish, and a Fortune Fish. Finally, the venue was so much fun. We went to Play Date Co. for some fun with your cousins and a few classmates. It was nice to have the place to ourselves and for you to play with someone you knew at every turn!

I ended the day printing off your "I Believe," and reminiscing about the last year. I'm nostalgic for your babyhood and saddened by how fast these two years have sped by. I read off my memories to Daddy as we reflected on a year of such amazing growth that pleases us and reminds us of how very blessed we are to have such a happy, healthy boy. From our trip to San Antonio to our visits to the Little Elm beach, from our stay at Great Wolf to the GFC Family Retreat, from your shaky start to school to your ability for Daddy to just be able to drop you off in carpool, we have had such a fun year with you. You've continued to add so much to our family. Both of your brothers absolutely adore you, much to your irritation sometimes, as they kiss and hug you all over even when you clearly wish they'd leave you alone!

Knox Morgan, I wish you such a happy birthday! Thank you for being so happy-go-lucky, so fun, so easygoing, so full of joy and love. May this year be filled with more memories of love, laughter, joy, fun, learning, and health!

Love,
Mommy

Last bath as a one-year-old. You're "seeeping" (sleeping)
Last one-year-old photos

Shabbat with Hayla - dancing for your birthday 
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Fishy Cupcakes!

 















Grandma was in the hospital for an infection after her surgery last month. She was so bummed to miss out on the celebration!




FLASHBACK: 6-month check up compared to 2-year check-up!